> >So better write down also thoughts
> that do not agree with the organizer's wishes than to leave
> out also those
> thoughts that you did not have but that you might like to install.
>
> I think you are saying it's better to bring things up and
> risk being told No
> than to not say anything. You'd be right.
Hi Ainaechoiriel,
you did understand my words as I meant them :-)
I am sorry that I write not as understandable as others
but English is my second language and thus I can only
try to be understandable. My first language will ever
colour my sentence building.
>
> >I think it is in the mind of the beholder what each thinks
> is a "complete
> overhaul".
> Those persons not so much involved
> in the organization see many things
> not as important as you feel them
> dear to yourself.
>
> I think you are saying here that what I feel is important may
> not be felt to
> be important by others and they can't know until I say
> something. You'd be right again.
Yes, that was my meaning :-)
> just have to say that my brain does not
> always cooperate. It
> wsn't until this came up that I *felt* the suggestion of a
> complete overhaul
> that I was able to organize the thought that why that
> category structure is
> important to me. I'm getting a better handle on it as we go
> along. Maybe
> I'll have something concrete by next years post-mortem that
> says: this will
> not change, this is negotiable, and that sort of thing.
That would be good. But please take into account
that things already nixed might be so important
to a participant that this person forgets or
represses your nixing.
So it might occur that you have to repeat your
decision to an obstinate participant
(one of them would be probably me).
We live all in our own minds,
so feel not rankled if some suggestions
come up again and again.
>
> >So please bear with us
> and take from our nitpicking
> what you want ;-)
>
> Thanks. I will and thank you for bearing with me!
> Brain-addled as I am.
I admire you for your dedication.
But perhaps the MEFA stress also
adds to you life.
As MEFA decides not on your income
and the paying of your bills
(at least I hope so for you)
I wish for you that can detach yourself enough
to relax sometimes.
This person here would prefer
if you would relax and take it easy.
We need you !
I think it is more important that
the MEFAwards would be repeated unchanged
as that you are brooding about changes
and forget to relax.
>
> >I think nobody will leave MEFAwards
> only because the nits picked at
> are not reworked as wished by the nitpicker.
>
> Well, someone did leave though I can't say for sure this was why.
OK, I see what you mean.
This was again my own view on things.
It depends probably on how important
the nitpicker sees her opinions.
For me MEFA itself is far more important than any improvements.
Best wishes Elanor
And do take some time off !